Working Mum Guilt: 5 Reasons To Ditch It

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A working mums' job is not a walk in the park. They juggle between work deadlines, taking kids to school, preparing meals and running errands. They take on many roles as well as the daily grind of work. Aside from that, they often suffer from other people's silent disapproval. From traditionalists who claim that working mums are responsible for the decline of the golden era of 50's family values to those who blame them for harming their children by working.

The positive news is that it is not the moment for working mums to give up just yet. Recent proof reveals that in spite of all the issues our children are actually ok! Not one, but three recent studies confirm what we rational-minded mums already knew. Upon weighing the costs and benefits of working motherhood, the studies reveal that despite public opinion and arguments to the contrary, the overall impact of work outside the home upon our kids is positive rather than negative.

So, chin up, ladies! Take pride in knowing you're doing the right thing for you and your kids! Breathe a sigh of relief, and then read on to discover the top five reasons the boffins say it's okay to ditch your guilt!

1. Financial Remuneration. It's becoming more difficult for families to survive on one income. Never mind the rising cost of living itself, but the global economy is in a shambles, and families everywhere continue to face the repercussions of recession from layoffs to lost dividends. A dual income means greater financial security and capacity to provide for one's family.

2. The Benefits of Nurseries. Recent results of the ongoing US National Institute of Health's study on child development reveal that children in high-quality childcare received slightly higher scores in academic and cognitive achievement well into their teenage years. The increase in better performance was probably caused by the "fostering [of] the early acquisition of school readiness skills." The research suggests that quality childcare involves interactions that can provide kids with beneficial emotional and behavioural stimulation.

3. Personal Fulfilment. Admit it. Childcare can be downright exhuasting and demanding, and doing it full-time may not be fulfilling for all women. Many working mums report that the satisfaction they receive from being a member of the paid workforce gives them a sense of personal fulfilment they wouldn't otherwise receive from staying at home with the kids. Fuelling career aspirations and meeting personal needs can be a very rewarding pursuit for a working mother.

4. Better Mental Health. Tightly linked to the fulfilment of personal goals are the benefits of improved maternal mental health. Despite the friction involved in balancing work and home life, maintaining a balance can offset the intensity or humdrum routine of the domestic sphere by giving mums an outlet for stress release.

5. Stability. Two other studies, the first originating from a 2009 report from the Institute of Education in London, and the second from Columbia University in the US, revealed that the advantages of the factors mentioned above all resulted to a better family dynamic and consequently a greater sense of stability for children. Researchers in both suggested that maternal satisfaction and happiness contributed to a stable home environment that ultimately had a greater impact on child development and health than a mother's decision to work. Despite concerns in the UK that maternal employment had a negative impact upon kids, the Institute of Education's study claimed that "the bulk of the evidence therefore supports the view that it really doesn't matter much one way or another if mothers are in the labour force."

There you have it, working mums! Certified testimonies that we're not causing harm to our kids and that we're making intelligent life choices! So, feel free to stick it to the next person you encounter that wags their finger at you disapprovingly by citing research that nips their flimsy arguments in the bud.

Finding validation in the studies, however, doesn't necessarily make our work any easier. Professional Coaching can assist you in finding a way to beat the stress of continuous tightrope act working mums experience when balancing personal success and their kids' hapiness.

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This article was published on 2010/11/27