Change Without Force

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We talk so much about how we should visualize our desires and what we want to create. Not only that, the first most important thing on our daily agenda is that we must 'feel' the joy before we can ever receive it. And yet this universal law is still something that is most challenging for many of us. Why? Because we are so darned conditioned to believe that what we already know is the only truth, and if we let go of this perceived truth, we will lose our identity. We identify with the external world by our belief systems, our ideal, our actions and our emotions. We believe that if we have what we want first, we will then be happy; if others would only change their ways, than I would feel better. But only the reverse is true. We must first --Be, Do, Have; not Have, Do, Be. The latter does not exist. It is an illusion.

Think of it this way. To become a doctor of philosophy, a manager of a department store, a recognized actor or a professional Olympic skier, what do we have to do before we get to that point? Yes, we need the education, but we also have to believe, we have to have faith with all our heart that we are already there. British actress Kate Winslet won an Oscar this year. In her speech, she stated that at the age of eight she would stand in front of the bathroom mirror reciting her acceptance speech, holding onto a shampoo bottle which was her intended Oscar. She visualized and believed with every cell in her body that she won. She basically experienced the win before she won it.

What's annoying is that we all talk about change but yet we continue to complain about our circumstances, our past and present government, the political leaders, our school systems, our parents and the ex's. We continue to sarcastically poke, prod, belittle or be disgruntled with them so that we feel like we are making a well-deserved point. By acting and speaking in this manner we think they will do something. We are looking for change with force! Is this not how abusive protests and wars begin? I am not saying that I don't get caught up in this illusion myself. I do on occasion. What's important about this illusion of 'change with force' is that we become aware of it. It's almost like we become possessed with some great force taking over our body and our mind. We begin to act and speak out of control like some monster spinning its head, and its neck beginning to look like a tightly wound coil ready to tear, oozing its green smelly slime.

The world is a mirror of the self. We behave like this because we are not happy with who we have become. We are not being who we want to be. When we see a deficiency in someone else, it is not about them, it is about us. It is about our own deficiencies and disappointments in ourselves. It is about the gap between where we are and where we want to be and not taking responsibility for this gap.

When we are connected and follow our True Self, our heart's desire, we will see others in their life path stumbling, splitting their lips and scraping their knees but without judgment and condemnation. And rather than blasphemy them, encourage and support them in their sleep state. When we are living in our light while we help others, they to will eventually begin to live in their light too. No one needs to be lectured, scolded or sworn at for living in the dark. Allow them to wake up to life with your love.

"Don't demand that they do good work before you see them doing good work. If we can see them doing good work before they do good work, they'll do good work. But if you need good work before you see them doing good work, you'll never get there." ~Abraham-Hicks.

"As you sow, so shall you reap."

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This article was published on 2010/03/29